Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Killing the crush factor????
What is the rule for when to sleep with some one? When to kiss someone etc? Is there such a thing as sleeping with someone too soon and how do you know when that imaginary line has been crossed? Some of my friends can wait forever some can not wait at all. However is there a real line or is it just something that matters to each individual.
For me once I feel any type of connection wither that be emotional or physical I like to sleep with that person. It is fun sleeping with the potential of some one rather than the truth of someone. Lucky for me once I sleep with someone and realize that that person that I slept with does not exist it is easy for me to move on.
On the flip side is my friend Jared. He has to make sure every thing is perfect before he crosses the bridge into being more than friends. He has been hanging out with this same girl for a month now and is nervous to kiss her. However here are the facts (try not to laugh) 1.) They went out drinking and she was all over him. 2.) all there friends said that she likes him 3.) they hang out every night together. Jared makes me laugh because he does not want to take it to the next level because he is worried that it might not work out and she will think that he just wanted her body. I am not laughing at Jared I am just laughing that a guy can actually think this much. I did not know that they were capable.
I have no experience with waiting so I really have no idea about where this could go. This is my new goal don't worry. I know that my guy friends that have waited a long time to make a move on me I did not really feel that much when they finally did. However in the beginning there probably could have been more of a chance.
The fact for me is I wish I could be more careful but when push comes to shove I just keep hearing in my head "you can put on a life vest but you have to get wet if you are going to go swimming."